Don’t forget the Groom

Don’t forget the Groom

Sunday, August 28th, 2011

Don’t forget the groom
He bought the ring and you said yes, now the planning begins. Traditionally the bride took full control of the wedding plans, with a little help from her mother and closest friends, and all the groom had to do was show up, most of the time the day of the wedding was the first time he had ever seen the venue….well guess what much the like the man pacing in the waiting room with his cigar, while his wife had the baby, times have changed, so grab your helmet and get ready to enjoy the adventure that is planning a wedding. Planning a wedding together is the perfect chance to learn even more about each other…you may find out that your soon to be husband has a love of spider mums, or that he actually knows what a flower frog is…hello if he knows that he is most certainly a keeper….how would you have ever known that if he was not involved in one of the most special days the two of you will ever share. Guys this is the perfect time to show her she is not alone in this. This wedding is as much you as her, give her your input and ladies take it all in, listen to him, let him express himself…you may find out some amazing things out about him and fall in love a little bit more every step of the way. Let me help you get started with the following tips.
Does he know it’s ok to be involved? Ask him, perhaps he hasn’t gotten involved because he didn’t know he was allowed to. Face it girls, when we put our minds into something, there is no stopping us, and we often have a tendency to over look the big things in our lives…like the groom. Make sure you take the time to let him know what you need help with.
Never shoot down his ideas. When he does join you let him know that you value his ideas, if you do in fact say that you are on board with one of his ideas, be prepared to accept them and incorporate them into the wedding. Involve him, ask him how he feels about the colors you have chosen, or the the font on your invitations, the more you keep him in the loop, the more your wedding will showcase the both of you, as one.
Give him a job. By this point you should know his interests, likes and dislikes, so ask him to plan the rehearsal dinner or pick the dj, or the band…you never know he may surprise you with the perfect first dance song, you know the one will make you melt and bring tears to your eyes at the first sound of it, the one you may have never thought of…
And finally, make it fun, a wedding is after all a celebration. Think of ways to make the process more enticing to him…take him on a date, what could be more romantic than sipping champagne and sampling cake, or take dance lessons together, not only will you enjoy it, you two will look amazing for your first dance as husband and wife.
A wedding is a big event, the first big step you will take together, keep him involved, hold on tight to each other and cherish every moment you get to spend together through the journey that is wedding planning.
Written by Sonja Duffy Owner of Off the Wall Event Designs

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